The Fall of Man (Genesis 3:16-19)
16 To the woman he said,
“I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing;
with pain you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”
17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat of it,’
“Cursed is the ground because of you;
through painful toil you will eat of it
all the days of your life.
18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you,
and you will eat the plants of the field.
19 By the sweat of your brow
you will eat your food
until you return to the ground,
since from it you were taken;
for dust you are
and to dust you will return.”
16 To the woman he said,
“I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing;
with pain you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”
17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat of it,’
“Cursed is the ground because of you;
through painful toil you will eat of it
all the days of your life.
18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you,
and you will eat the plants of the field.
19 By the sweat of your brow
you will eat your food
until you return to the ground,
since from it you were taken;
for dust you are
and to dust you will return.”
As the nation progress, woman becomes more educated and many head out into the workforce, earning a salary to help keep ends meet. Minister Chan mentioned about his new Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF), Chun Sing: New ministry to focus on family http://www.asiaone.com/News/Latest%2BNews/Singapore/Story/A1Story20120803-363070.html
Family has a structure - head of the family is the Man, looking after wife & his children. As both working parents, the one that brings in the most $$$ tends to do more of the talking (decisions) the role of the "Man of the House" has changed significantly over the years.
When Mom Earns More Than Dad
From - http://dadsforlife.sg/fatherhood101/when-mom-earns-more-than-dad
Impact on Family Dynamics
Where a mom becomes the primary breadwinner, a dad can find himself facing big challenges. He will frequently feel like a pioneer, with no guideposts or references to look to among established social support structures – family members, friends, or even colleagues. This effectively leaves him on his own, to find his place and role in contributing to the welfare of his family.
Not knowing how he creates value for his family can cause significant stress for a dad. While the feeling is normal, the discomfort is very real. This discomfort can have some undesirable effects, such as resentment towards the situation (or worse, his wife), a sense of helplessness and isolation, and even unhealthy habits.
Dads, moms and the community at large need to understand this. Dads who are not the main breadwinners in their families can do with some help in appreciating and understanding their immense value as fathers, quite apart from what society recognises as the all-important criteria of provider.
The great mindset change
Contentment
Living within your family means (Can we live on only one pay?)
Sacrifices
Highly educated wife can forgo their career ambition to be a house wife?
Husband who can't command a higher salary, turns to be a house husband? The Pride and Prejudice that follows...
Lastly the focus on family (http://www.family.org.sg) helps the couple to set objectives on their life long directions. Support one another, Cell groups and Grand parents. Help is within reaching distance.
Life is worth the smile but if Man cannot even accept his new role within the family structure how successful can the Focus on Family movement be?
"Do not overwork to be rich" Proverbs 23:4, Our greatest riches are the riches we have in Christ through our family.
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